From preschool age, children gradually learn to limit their movements when necessary as their motor skills improve. They gain maturity, allowing them to better control themselves, express emotions, and stay focused for longer periods.
However, even at school age, children need to move. A certain level of restlessness is normal and not worrisome. For most, it’s a way to develop motor skills and release stress and emotions. Some simply need to move more or are naturally more energetic.
What is a restless child?
When a child cannot stay still or talks quickly, this is called motor restlessness. Although it may be tiring for parents, it’s important to let the child move and express themselves. If this behavior continues over a long period or occurs at inappropriate times, it’s advisable to teach strategies for calming down.
Possible causes of restlessness
- Emotional distress (anxiety, insecurity due to a change at school, home, or surroundings).
- A need for attention or recognition.
- An unstable family or environmental context — establishing routines can bring stability and calm.
- Lack of sleep.
- Simply a naturally higher energy level.
Hyperactive?
It may be tempting to label a restless child as “hyperactive,” but only a specialist can make that diagnosis. Consult a doctor if restlessness persists or interferes with relationships, learning, or family life. For more information, see the sheet on Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD).
How to help a child be calmer
- Establish a stable routine that promotes sleep (10–11 hours per night).
- Ensure a healthy, sufficient diet — breakfast is key for concentration.
- Encourage at least 60 minutes of daily physical activity: walking, playing, sports, martial arts, etc.
- Avoid screens before bedtime and keep them out of the bedroom.
- Practice relaxation exercises: breathing, stretching, yoga, or meditation.
- Help the child express and identify their emotions.
- Reassure and support them through changes or stressful times.
- Spend quality time together and let the child choose some activities.
- During homework, alternate work and breaks, make it fun (chalkboard writing, reading in the bath, etc.).
- Encourage and praise efforts to stay calm.
